Ready To Stop Paying the Cost of Over-Reacting?

Tired of having to clean up the fallout or worse, having to live with the consequences? You can easily acquire the skills to stop reacting negatively or stuffing feelings whenever you feel:

  • so stressed you are ready to blow up at the next person who talks to you.

  • you are on your last nerve and anything might be too much to handle.

  • so emotionally hijacked to even think straight.

  • your patience with someone is running out and your reaction risks damaging the relationship.

  • your Inner Critic is berating you, your ideas and robbing you of your confidence to create what you really want.

HCS Focusing Will Give You Skills to Shift From Reacting to Responding

Tired of reacting to fear, anger, resentment, sadness, humiliation, anxiety, and more provoking emotions as if they are bigger than you?

For more than 25 years I have attempted to help people breakthrough their internal blocks to creating their best life to make courageous and confident choices that creatively express their life energy. 

Using these HeartConnexion Focusing tools has been personally transforming for me. For the past two years, I have been involved in intensive training in using them and teaching the skills others and it is now time to begin. I look forward to sharing them. 

Here is my personal experience:

I have to confess that I had my doubts that using these 5 practices would really add more tools to my toolbox. At first, they seemed too simple to have much impact for me. I was surprised because they have been very transformational to me personally to step out of reacting and regretting as well as creating a peaceful space within me to experience the joy of life and a sense of tapping into deeper wisdom. - Dr. Paul

You Will Learn The Transformation Skills To:

  • Stop being emotionally hijacked by negative feelings.

  • Consciously shift from reacting to responding from your truest self.

  • Find a path to peace independent of current circumstances.

  • Discover your "Inner Critic" is an assent not an enemy.

  • Identify and change habitual ways you have been bypassing feeling that can lead you to wholeness.

  • Tap into inner wisdom to make wise choices in situations where you have been stuck.

  • Make decisions with confidence from an inner awareness and deep knowing.

The first lesson was a blessing. It reminded me to shift from feeling overwhelmed to the feeling was “something in me.” Sitting with it, I realized what the shoulder pain really was. I was feeling like a failure and carrying someone else’s box of rocks. I really like the daily steps. They helped me work to a solution! - Donna

I found focusing to be a really unique and effective process. I didn't realize the power of having compassion for all parts of my life, including the events, people and my responses to those events and people. I used to engage in a process ... that emphasized rejecting lies, while HCS Focusing involves having compassion .... That explains why I am experiencing much more growth from this course that the previous tool I used. - Bill
I'm understanding more about my triggers. As I acknowledge my triggers, I feel like these additional 5 lessons will help me to understand the feelings that I am experiencing and provide a way to move past them. - Robin

What Is Included in the Course:

  • 5 Practice Skill videos that can empower you to stop reacting and start choosing to respond from your best self.

  • You Set Your Own Pace - no deadlines.

  • 5 Reflection videos from a participant actually using the course.

  • Bonus Mini Focusing Session Demonstration

  • Bonus - Free 1 Hour Focusing Session with Dr. Paul Fitzgerald

Frequently Asked Questions

  • Where did HCS Focusing come from?

    In the 1960's, Eugene Gendlin and others were researching characteristics that could predict the most effective approaches to helping people overcome obstacles to living their best selves. They discovered that if the individual had difficulty putting into words what was coming up into their awareness, it would highly be an excellent outcome without regard to the other factors. While that seems counter-intuitive to many, for Gendlin it was the clue to the person sensing the implicit knowing of the body. From that discovery he developed what has become knowns as Focusing.

  • Is HCS Focusing Therapy or Counseling?

    While Focusing is not therapy or coaching. Many therapists, coaches and spiritual mentors blend it effectively with their work with individuals. The common goals include awareness of emotional barriers, finding internal resources for positive changes and deep wisdom that gives confidence in making wise decisions and choices. However, unlike therapy or coaching, in Focusing (by yourself or with a partner) you will learn skills that you can use anywhere and anytime. You are the expert in you. The goal of HCS Focusing is to equip and empower you to use Focusing as a life-time skill in any situation you encounter.

Course curriculum

    1. Thank you for enrolling in Growing Bigger Than What’s Provoking You!

    2. Tips to navigate the Course Lessons

    3. Introduction to Growing Bigger Than What's Provoking You!

    1. Practice 1: Pause and recognize "something in me feels ..."

    2. Applying Practice 1: "Something in me feels ...."

    3. Print Practice 1: Pause and shift to "something in me feels ...."

    1. Practice 2: Creating an Empathic Inner Relationship with the "something in me."

    2. Applying Practice 2: Saying "Hello" and Acknowledging it.

    3. Print Practice 2: Creating an Empathic Inner Relationship with the "something in me."

    1. Practice 3: Pause With Curiosity about the "something in me" - the Felt Sense.

    2. Applying Practice 3: Pausing with Curiosity About the Felt Sense Under the Provoking Feeling.

    3. Applying Practice 3: How Can I "Be With" My Inner Critic?

    4. Print Practice 3: Pause with Curiosity about the "something in me..."

    1. Practice 4: Creating Inner Space for All the "somethings in me."

    2. Applying Practice 4: Finding Your "Self-in-Presence" with the "Felt Sense."

    3. A Mini HCS Focusing Session Finding the "Felt Sense" Under the Provoking Feeling.

    4. Print Practice 4: Creating Inner Space for All the "somethings in me."

    1. Practice 5: Adding Self-Compassionate Self-Awareness

    2. Applying Practice 5: "No Wonder"

    3. Print Practice 5: Adding Self-Compassionate Self-Awareness

About this course

  • Free
  • 21 lessons
  • 1.5 hours of video content

Dr. Paul Fitzgerald

Instructor Paul Fitzgerald, DMin

Dr. Paul Fitzgerald served a non-profit organization for 16 years in international pensions and benefits administration. He earned the CLU and ChFC designations, and he also earned the Doctor of Ministry with research in internalized shame. His professional training includes Certificates in Inner Relationship Focusing based on intensive course work with Ann Weiser Cornell and Barbara McGavin. In addition, he earned a Certificate in BioSpiritual Focusing based on work with John Keane and Joe Coletti through the BioSpiritual Institute. He is also a member of the International Focusing Institute and the BioSpiritual Institute. For more than 25 years, he and his wife, Susanna, have assisted people in wholehearted, authentic living through HeartConnexion Seminars. HCS Focusing is a process for individuals to discover life-forwarding change through inner wisdom that results in confident living in any life situation. “Focusing has been life-changing for me and much more than another theory.” Focusing was discovered and developed by Eugene Gendlin, Ph.D. Extensive research over many years has demonstrated its effectiveness. Focusing is a way to recover our inborn and innate “forwarding” and "felt sense," leading to removing barriers to our inner wisdom and creativity to confident choices.

Best Price Ever: FREE

That's right. No fee for these lessons AND for a Complementary Focusing Session with Dr. Paul after completing the lessons.